Hello my Chime and welcome back to Diary of a Bipolar Pixie. I am Pixie, I am bipolar, this is a life update post. Enough said.
I couldn’t remember exactly what part this was, which is why I put the part 5? It’s been a minute since I last gave a solid update on where I am in life, so I thought I’d go ahead and do that today.
As I’m writing this, I’m sitting in the local McDonald’s, doing my job, and I’m bored. Part of my job is called supported employment, which means I hang out at a participant’s job and make sure they stay busy, do it correctly, and this particular participant is fairly decent at managing herself, so I tend to sit at a table and write or play on my phone. One perk is I get to eat breakfast while I hang out and McDonald’s breakfast is pretty awesome.
I also have recently been looking more into the stats of this blog, and I am amazed at the number of visitors I’ve had over the past year-ish, 164! That might not seem like a lot, but to me it means a lot. I also am up to 12 followers, which is also huge to me. I LOVE YOU GUYS!! Sorry, don’t know where that came from. It feels amazing to know that what I write is actually interesting enough for people to want to follow my blog.
I guess I should move onto the actual update of my life. I finished my spring semester a little over a week ago, almost a straight A student but at least I passed, and I’m taking the summer off from school to work. For the most part, I love my job. I love working with this population of people, I love knowing that I’m doing something helpful and meaningful, and I love the projects and activities I get to help with.
However, my boss and I are gonna brawl, I swear it. I’m one of her hardest working, most consistent employees, I’ve never called in, I was late once because of a miscommunication. I even come in on my days off to help with something if I know they’re going to need it.
My boss takes advantage of this and regularly has me working the more difficult, less desirable hours, or, and this bugs me the most, she has me stay in town to work with five or six different participants a day while my coworkers get to go out of town and on tours of interesting places with the day program. If this was a once in a while occurrence, I wouldn’t be so upset, but it happens so regularly that I feel like I’m actively being picked out to not participate.
For example, a few weeks ago, the day program scheduled to go swimming at a hot springs swim park, which I had asked a month in advance if I could go. I was told there wouldn’t need to be that any staff for the number of participants scheduled to go. The day comes, I’m scheduled to work with a number of participants around down, and who do I discover gets to go swimming? The bosses son, who was just rehired after he was fired from the oil field. I was annoyed but brushed it off as her just trying to get on the schedule. Then it happened again with a tour of a little factory last week. Every employee except for yours truly was scheduled to go on the tour. I stayed in town and bounced between six different participant over as many hours.
There are several events coming up that I made sure to put my two cents in and let my boss know I want to attend those. Bowling, lake day, swimming, and I’m not expecting to get to go to them all. The big one though is a trip to Salt Lake City, Utah. It’s a five day trip, where we take the participant to the aquarium, arcades, shopping, and I think to an amusement park. I was the very first staff member to voice my interest in going, but I was told only the boss and her husband would be going with the participants because they only needed to staff members. If the time comes, and I find out that they took their son with them instead of me, despite her saying I was first on list of staff who would go, I think I’m going to lose my shit.
Maybe that sounds petty and selfish, maybe I’m too full of myself, but I’m hard working, have always been willing to help out, and all I’m asking for is a little kindness in return. Let me do something fun with the group that isn’t stuck inside a tiny building.
Onto personal matters, my mother discovered I vape. Mind you, I’ve been vaping since I was 19, and I’lo be 24 in September. I’ve been living at home for almost 2 years now, and in most of that time, I’ve vaped, and she only just found out. She lost her shit, screaming about how bad it was for me and how spending money on vapes was a slap in the face to her and dad, who have helped pay bills in the past, which I understand why she would be mad about that. But, here’s the hypocrisy of it all, my mom smokes, and my dad chews, and she wanted to lecture me on how vaping wasn’t allowed in her house, as she has a cigarette in her hand. I’m not saying one is worth than the other, I’m just saying I had to try really hard not to laugh when she told me I would stop vaping.
I guess what really surprised me though, was that I didn’t cry, or scream. I didn’t let it get to me, I let it roll off and it didn’t turn into a fight. A year ago, that would’ve been a completely different story, but not this time, and I think I’m proud of myself for that.
I’m also talking to this amazing guy who gives me butterflies every time we talk. I met him when I was institutionalized/hospitalized back in August, and I had a massive crush on him by day 2. Day 1, if we recall, was mostly me being anxious and crying, day 2 was calmer. This guy was one of the few people to keep me sane amongst all the crazy. He was well spoken, kind, understanding, and I have zero ability to keep my romantic ass from developing crushes on handsome, kind men. However, anxiety balances that out and instead of just straight up admitting that I had a crush on him, I instead threw objects at his head. I’M AWARE IT SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING A FOUR YEAR OLD WOULD DO!! Doesn’t mean I could do anything different and it’s not so romantic to declare your crush for another psych patient.
Anyway, after I was released, he was still there, he was one of the one’s I tried the most to stay in contact with, but it was pretty difficult with my work schedule and the hospital’s stupid phone system, and after about two months, I figured he’d be someone I’d think fondly of every now again when I was down on myself. I saved some of his voicemails just so I could listen to them when I was feeling bad and I could remember how kind he was.
Then, a few weeks ago, out of the blue, I get a friend request from someone I don’t automatically recognize. I put the friend request on the back burner, until the person sent me a stupid meme, and I just had to figure out who it was. Did some snooping, and at some point it just clicked that I knew who it was! It was my guy from the hospital! I wasn’t actively trying to forget about him, but life gets busy.
We struck up a conversation, which turned to flirting really quick. Turns out I really am awful at keeping my feelings a secret, because he absolutely knew I liked him, but he liked me too. He was much better at not acting on it than I was, though.
He shared with me that he’d been out for a while, but he wanted to get himself on the right path before he looked me up, which was super sweet of him, in a weirdly mentally fucked up kind of way. But I’m also mentally fucked up so it’s fine.
Any who, flirty turned straight up sexual, turned into kink conversation, turned into me getting a day collar in the mail to show I am in consideration until we decide if we would like this to be a permanent relationship, which I’m all for right now.
I do have one tiny, itty-bitty, minuscule worry, that’s really not a big deal at all… He’s fifteen years older than me. He’s five years younger than my mom, thirteen years younger than my dad. That’s a pretty hefty age gap, considered I’ve yet to date anyone older than me. I’m not joking by the way, all my exes were younger than me. Age doesn’t usually bother me, but at his age I guess I’m worried he’s going to be ready to get married and settle down as of yesterday. I don’t know how I would feel about that, if he told me he was. I also wonder what kind of future he could see for us, if he’s okay with the age gap, if he ever worries about it.
Before y’all come for me, I am very aware that the only way to find the answers to these questions is to just ask him, and I’m sure I will eventually, but this is where I come to rant and spill my guts to what feels like a diary, but has a handful of crazy internet peeps checking in once in a while. Sometimes it’s easier for me to write it out online first, to organize my thoughts, before I bring them up to him.
What else?………. Y’all, I got nothing. So, stay tuned for future insanity, contact me with any questions, comments, or concerns, and have a great week
Fly high, chimers!
